About the Book- The Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck
For decades, we’ve been told that positive thinking is the key to a happy, rich life.
“Fuck positivity,” Mark Manson says. “Let’s be honest, shit is fucked, and we have to live with it.”
In his wildly popular Internet blog, Manson doesn’t sugar-coat or equivocate. He tells it like it is—a dose of raw, refreshing, honest truth that is sorely lacking today. The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F**k is his antidote to the coddling, let’s-all-feel-good mindset that has infected
American society and spoiled generation, rewarding them with gold medals just for showing up.
Manson makes the argument, backed both by academic research and well-timed poop jokes that improving our lives hinges not on our ability to turn lemons into lemonade, but on learning to stomach lemons better.
Human beings are flawed and limited—“not everybody can be extraordinary, there are winners and losers in society, and some of it is not fair or your fault.”
Once we embrace our fears, faults and uncertainties, once we stop running and avoiding and start confronting painful truths, we can begin to find the courage, perseverance, honesty, responsibility, curiosity and forgiveness we seek.
There are only so many things we can give a fuck about so we need to figure out which ones matter, Manson makes clear. While money is nice, caring about what you do with your life is better, because true wealth is about the experience.
A much-needed grab-you-by-the-shoulders-and-look-you-in the-eye moment of real talk, filled with entertaining stories and profane, ruthless humour, The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F**k is a refreshing slap for a generation to help them truly lead contented, grounded lives.
Here are the Top lessons I learnt from The Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck
- The desire for a more positive experience is itself a negative experience. And, paradoxically, the acceptance of one’s negative experience is itself a positive experience.
- Pursuing something only reinforces that you lack it in the first place. If you pursue money, it means you think you don’t have enough money already, hence no matter how bigger lottery you win, you’ll always feel poor.
- Accepting your experience of life as being great and wonderful is the single greatest thing you can do for your happiness.
- Whether you realize it or not, you are always choosing what to give a fuck about. The key is to focus only on the things that matter.
- A lot of situations that educated middle-class dare to consider as their “life problems” are really just side effects of not having anything more important to worry about.
- Problems never stop. It’s your choice what sort of problems do you want to tackle.
- We should question our emotions because they are not always right.
- You can’t merely be in love with the result. Everybody loves the result. You have to love the process.
- Most of us are pretty average at most things we do. Embrace the truth.
- The more uncomfortable the answer, the more likely it is to be true.
- If it feels like it’s you versus the world, chances are it’s really just you versus yourself.
- Accepting responsibility for our problems is the first step to solving them.
- Manson’s Law of Avoidance: The more something threatens your identity, the more you will avoid it. The more something threatens how you view yourself, the more you will avoid getting around to doing it.
- The mark of an unhealthy relationship is when two people try to solve each other’s problems in order to feel good about themselves.
- You will die one day. Create something that won’t.
These points could be direct quotes from the book, and/or my thoughts and interpretation of those lines. Importantly, this write-up is dedicated to the key points from this book.
My Review of The Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck (by Mark Manson)
The Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck is possibly one of the best books I have so far that could lift you up in your hard times. Mark has used wit and humour as his tools to create simplicity around complex daily life tactics.
The book is blunt and straightforward in regards to the ugliness of the life. Shit happens; learn to embrace it.
1st chapter of the book starts with an unorthodox example of Charles Bukowski. Unorthodox- because he might be last person coming to one’s mind to start an inspirational book with.
Manson states, in the book, that you can’t escape the problems (unless you become a monk… but then you might have other problems too). But, you always can choose better problems to deal with.
This book is captivating. From the first page itself, the reader feels glued to the pages.
My favourite thought-provoking one-liner from the book is-
We are always choosing: willingly or unwillingly. We are the makers of our choices.
So, it’s on to us, if we want to stay depressed. Or, we can choose to get up and move on! So, do decide, my friend!
Ultimately, in the last chapter, Manson horrifies us with his adventurous trip on the hill. That chapter reminded me of two-time cancer patient survivor Geetha Paniker’s book When I fell in Love with Life, where she has inspired the readers with her brave journey.
Hands down, The Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck by Mark Manson is probably one of the first books I’d recommend to anyone. Preferably to those who’s ever been depressed or felt low in life.
It’s an instant morale booster.
Go, grab your copy now!
Buy your book from Amazon here- http://amzn.to/2yor5DI
(Another book you might wanna check out is the semi-fiction autobiography by Neelam Kumar To Cancer, With Love, where she has described her cancer treatment journey through a semi-fictitious, witty tale. Cancer journey and wit? Yeah, it’s weird!)