My coach told me — Going out, getting all the things you ever wanted is a form of masculine energy. Waiting for things, listening and surrendering your needs and everything in the hands of someone else, is feminine energy.
And as far as human existence goes, we need a mixture of both masculine and feminine energies within ourselves.
In simple words, there are moments when you need to lean forward and make things happen; and then there are moments when you need to lean back and let life take control of everything.
As a person who has always hustled since he entered his teenage years, this experience of not taking control of things appeared terrifying to me first.
It was April 2020, I was getting a session from a life coach and she pointed out that I am going through a burnout. I figured in the last 4 years, I hardly took a day off.
I couldn’t believe it first. But then I recalled how my energy levels are constantly dropping. And yes, something needed to be done.
So I spent the next 3 months trying and failing to take Sundays off.
Going through various podcast interviews, I heard Ryan Holiday saying “We are human beings, not human doings”, and that one line hit me.
This was my moment to learn how to lean back, and let life take care of you.
I spent a lot of weeks meditating on it, and learning more about how to do less, and be more.
Surrender Is Scary at First
How could I not do something about it? If I don’t do something, who else will?
You get out of victim mentality by having a belief “Life is happening by me.” Things only get done, when I do them. I make things happen.
And it works. For a long time, this belief system works.
But when it’s your time to jump to the next conscious level, this belief “Life is happening by me” becomes a limiting belief.
The next level of consciousness demands a new belief. And I learned this from Micheal, a contributing teacher of Law of Attraction.
The next level of consciousness demands in believing “life is happening through me”, i.e there’s a power higher and bigger than my existence, and I am playing a role for it on the earth. This however doesn’t mean the future in necessarily predetermined.
When you jump to this level of consciousness, you discover that you don’t control everything. And it’s okay to let go of this control.
It is super scary at first, but you get used to it.
And interestingly, when you let go of control, you will become free.
Miracles Happen When You Surrender
If you’re not seeing miracles you’re doing something wrong.Gabriel Bernstein
And this quote isn’t just to fill up space in this write-up.
I have literally seen miracles happening when I let go of control.
In the mid of this corona pandemic, I started my life coaching business. When so many people are losing their jobs, I willingly quit my job to become a full-time life coach.
My business coach Liz Huber sent me this email as the summary of our 1st coaching call, dated 29 April 2020, where we noted my 3-month goals.
One of my 3-month goals was to quit my full-time job.
And guess what?
When I aligned my purpose, goals, actions, thoughts, emotions, and everything else in 1 direction, it took me half the time to accomplish these goals.
I resigned from my job on 12 June 2020. Within 1.5 months of mentioning my 3-month goals.
Accepting with love
On the road to surrender, you will see a lot of challenges. And it will be your wish on how to respond.
In her book “The Universe has your back”, Gabriel mentions how we can tackle this situation.
Any time when you are facing challenges or roadblocks, you can declare “I choose to learn and accept this with love.”
There will be moments of fear, insecurity, overwhelm, etc when you are making decisions. But you decide how you want to respond and accept. It’s a choice.
That’s what the Law of Attraction is all about — choosing love, gratitude, and abundance, over fear, insecurity, and overwhelm.
And you can choose to accept everything with love.
Try Being a Writer With Intuition
Since I started learning how to surrender, I have stopped taking control of the blogs I am writing.
I sit in silence, or sometimes I journal and brainstorm some ideas, and I let the universe guide me through it. And no shit, I receive some amazing downloads from the universe.
The universe is always sending you signals, but are your notifications turned on?
Even before writing this piece today, I asked myself, what’s the best thing I can share with the world today. And here I am, writing about surrender.
It’s interesting and I am just following my curiosity. The day before yesterday, I wrote an in-depth IG post about 5 statements our ego loves, and today I am writing about it. Crazy world, huh?
Best Books to Read More About Surrender
- The universe has your back by Gabriel Bernstein
- The surrender experiment by Micheal A Singer
I have been reading both of these books, word by word for the past few weeks. And both of them are amazing.
You can pick any of these two books if you are interested to learn more about surrender in particular.
It’s hard to believe that someone else can take care of us- someone we haven’t even seen.
And that’s exactly what surrender is all about, believing in something higher than yourself and letting go of the control.
Listening to your calling is surrender, without questioning or doubting your calling.
Maybe I wrote this post especially for you, as a wake-up call.
Are you ready to wake up and listen to your calling?